All of us at some point in our lives have spent far too much time dwelling on negative thoughts, unaware that we are often reinforcing fear and worry in our mind, when we really don’t need it. Unless we take control, these effects can snowball into a downward spiral creating problems in other areas of our life, not only where the initial worry started. Constantly reliving old negative experiences does not help you focus and move on to an exciting future. Stop thinking too much, stop analysing everything and stop being hard on yourself!
Instead focus on the positive, giving attention and thoughts to a happy space that you can create for yourself. Look at all the caring people around you, show appreciation to your friendships, your family and your loved ones and keep in mind that a negative person may be draining to those people.
Count your blessings! Write a list of everything positive in your life, however large or small, whether it is your relationships, your family, your home, your pets or your job etc. Don’t forget to include yourself on that list – put at least 2 positive things about yourself that you are grateful for. Now list one problem in your life but try and find a positive aspect about it, for example if you were unemployed you would have enjoyed spending a little more time with your family. Try and do this with any problems you encounter, so you are focussing on the positive instead of highlighting the negative and making it even bigger! You will find this will also help you with finding solutions to those problems.
Remember happy or exciting memories from the past and visualise how you felt at that moment. Close your eyes and relish in those thoughts, awakening your senses to what you were thinking, seeing, touching or smelling – reliving the memory. Avoid letting your mind wander into any sad or negative memories by quickly replacing them with good and positive thoughts. Forget past mistakes, you cannot change them, you can only learn from them.
We have talked about the past and the present, now let’s talk about creating a positive future. Make a to do list, write about the small things you need to do and also the big things that you eventually want to get done. Give yourself timescales but make them realistic so you are not putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. Tick them off one by one when they are completed and then be proud of yourself for getting them done!
Look after your health, keep your home environment clean and tidy, do your job to the best of your ability and be kind and grateful to others. Consider anything that no longer makes you happy and make the positive steps to changing it. A Tarot reading gives guidance to help you focus and create your future, showing you the steps that you need to take to building a happy life for yourself and those around you.
Positive thinking is like a plant, the more you feed it, the more it flourishes. Negative thinking is exactly the same, only far less enjoyable…. So act now.